Dear Jeff Bezos,
I know you’ve been through a lot in the past few weeks, but I have one more request: Release those pics.
I say this as an Amazon stockholder, an Amazon Prime member and a fellow parent. Publish that “below the belt selfie” before The National Enquirer can leak it to TMZ. And while you’re at it, toss up a half a dozen other pics the tabloid hasn’t even seen.
“If in my position I can’t stand up to this kind of extortion,” you wrote on Medium, “how many people can?” By standing up to blackmail — by refusing to be ashamed — you turned the tables on the bullies at The National Enquirer. And people cheered! For a billionaire! Poor Howard Schultz must have been seething.
By all rights you should’ve spent last week being dragged for the news that Amazon is stealing tips from delivery drivers, as revealed in a Los Angeles Times investigation published the same day as your Medium post. Instead you were heaped with praise on Twitter — Twitter! — for standing up to David Pecker, the chairman and chief executive of American Media, who, as publisher of The National Enquirer, did more to put Donald Trump in the White House than perhaps anyone other than Vladimir Putin.
Standing up to Pecker was a great start. But by self-publishing your own nude photos, you can turn the tables on the sexual and cultural hypocrisy that allows people like him to weaponize nude photos in the first place.
If I know one thing, having written a sex-and-relationship advice column for the last few decades, Jeff, it’s this: We’ve all taken and sent photos like the ones you sent your girlfriend. O.K., not everyone. But many of us. And many more of us every day.
After years of hearing about the dangers of youth sexting, researchers at Drexel University set out in 2015 to find how common the practice is among adults. And after interviewing 870 people, ranging in age from 18 to 82, they discovered that sexting is “more common than generally thought,” as the American Psychological Association primly observed. Fully 88 percent of adults reported swapping sext messages at least once; 82 percent had sexted with someone in the last year. Far from being a threat to our relationships, sexting correlated strongly “with greater sexual satisfaction, especially for those in a relationship.”
We’re all carrying little pornography studios around with us in our pockets. And while many of us just use our words, a lot of us — young and old, gay and straight, anything and everything else — send sexy selfies too. We use our phones to flirt with established partners we hope we can trust (sometimes wrongly; vengeful exes are why we have revenge porn laws). We use them to flirt with complete strangers. And, yes, some of us misuse our phones by sending unsolicited dirty pics to people who never asked to see them.
It’s only going to get worse (or better, depending on your perspective) as we’re rapidly establishing new and welcome cultural norms about hitting on people. It’s increasingly unacceptable to hit on someone at work or in a classroom or on the street. So we do it online. We swipe left or right and start swapping texts with a stranger. The conversation quickly progresses from flirty to dirty and, before we know it, we’re exchanging nudes with that stranger.
We live in a world where two things are true: Nearly everyone has a few nude photographs out there somewhere (saved on a stranger’s phone; archived on a dating app you forgot you signed up for; lingering on some tech company’s servers). And yet a single solicited dirty pic has the power to end someone’s career.
Let’s end this ridiculous state of affairs.
Jeff, you have the power to make the world safer for your kids and mine, to say nothing of all the adults out there swapping nude photos with complete strangers or their spouses. (And to say nothing of all the other billionaires out there who, according to Bloomberg News, are now very worried about the whereabouts of the pics they’ve sent to their mistresses.) By releasing your own photos, you can normalize what is already normal and protect the professional and political futures of all the young adults who have been taking and sending nude selfies since they got their first phones.
The sooner we all have a few dirty pics out there, the sooner it won’t matter whose dirty pics get out there. Until then, we are all in danger of being blackmailed.
Sure, I could go first and release a few of my own. But the dirty pics a gay sex-advice columnist sent to his husband don’t have the power to change the world. The dirty pics the world’s richest man sent to his girlfriend? They do.
I’ve long thought there should be an annual release-a-nude-pic day. Imagine a kind of purge where all Americans would unite by mass-releasing dirty pics, thus depriving hackers, vengeful exes, unscrupulous publishers, sex-phobic employers and former K.G.B. agents of the power to destroy peoples’ lives. If you go first, Jeff, we’ll call it Jeff Bezos Day. It’s a far better legacy than wage theft.
Dan Savage (@fakedansavage) is a nationally syndicated sex advice columnist and The Stranger’s editorial director. He is the author of several books and the host of the Savage Lovecast.
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“【那】【既】【然】【如】【此】【的】【话】，【我】【们】【是】【不】【是】【可】【以】【谈】【谈】【契】【约】【书】【的】【事】【情】【了】！”【一】【个】【代】【表】【人】【平】【淡】【的】【说】【道】。 【也】【是】，【华】【国】【的】【威】【胁】【暂】【时】【可】【以】【放】【下】【了】，【那】【契】【约】【书】【的】【事】【情】【就】【可】【以】【拿】【出】【来】【谈】【谈】【了】，【这】【也】【是】【这】【次】【会】【议】【的】【最】【终】【目】【的】，【弑】【魔】【器】【掳】【掠】【不】【到】，【可】【契】【约】【书】【不】【能】【半】【个】【角】【都】【碰】【不】【到】【啊】！ 【然】【而】，【事】【情】【就】【放】【在】【这】【里】，【可】【是】【没】【有】【一】【个】【代】【表】【人】【敢】【先】【站】【出】【来】【说】【出】【自】
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